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Don’t tell me to try harder
Kids and adults with ADHD/ADD deal with a lot. We hear a lot of different things. Some good, some not. Some are helpful, others really aren’t. Either way, we hear a lot of different things. One thing that so many of us have heard is this: “You need to try harder.” This is something that many of us hear, myself included. Granted, I haven’t heard it often and some hear it more often than I do, but it is still something that I’ve heard and it’s still something that ADHDers/ADDers hear more often that we may like. There are a few things that I want to clear up about “trying…
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It’s not all bad
Sometimes, it can be so easy to focus on the bad and the negative. No matter it might be in life, it can be so easy to just think about and focus on the bad things that may happen in our lives. When it comes to ADHD/ADD and you have it, it is no different. I have been guilty of focusing on the negatives of ADHD/ADD. However, it’s not all bad. There are some good things about having ADHD/ADD. There are some positives. For those of us who have ADHD/ADD, we can be curious. We tend to think outside the box. We tend to be quite creative and have quite…
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Not just for kids
When it comes to mental illnesses, or learning disabilities, and such, there are misconceptions. People have misconceptions. It can be easy to just assume or think certain things. It isn’t any different when talking about ADHD. There are myths and misconceptions about ADHD. One misconception/myth about ADHD is that it’s just kids who have it. That’s a disorder that only kids have. It is one of the biggest misconceptions out there. It is true that many kids out there have ADHD. One in 10 kids in the US have ADHD. That’s definitely a large number. It is the most prevalent psychiatric disorder in children, according to CADDAC (Centre For ADHD…
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Want to set goals?
Last week, we welcomed the new year. Around this time, many people start setting goals for the year, if they haven’t done it already. It is normal to want to set goals and want to achieve them. No matter what it may be, many of us want to work towards something. However, if you have ADHD/ADD, setting goals isn’t necessarily always as easy. Due to how our brain is wired, it can be a challenge to set goals, keeping ourselves accountable, being able to plan out the steps, and such. I am not saying that we are not able to achieve goals, or that we shouldn’t set goals for ourselves,…
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2020 is coming to an end
In just a few days, 2020 will be behind us, and we’ll welcoming a whole new year. Ringing in a new year is often welcomed by many, no matter what year. But I imagine this year, 2021 is welcomed even more so. The world has seen many challenges this year. I don’t need to mention what they are. We all know about them. I don’t want to go there. None of us need reminding. I also don’t want to focus on that, and I’m sure you may not want to either. Around this time of year, I tend to reflect on the year, what’s happened in my life or around…
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Book Review: “A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD”
This week, I want to discuss a book that I’ve read recently. The book is “A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD”, written by Sari Solden and Michelle Frank. Both authors have ADHD themselves and work with women who have ADHD as well. I ordered the book in October, but only started reading it last Friday, after finishing another book. I’ve been meaning to get my hands on a copy of the book for a while, as I was really interested in reading it. So, I finally started reading it, and really got into it. The book doesn’t focus on what ADHD is, treatments, and such. It doesn’t focus on…
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Just Being Me
For a long time, I tried to be “normal”, pretending that I don’t have ADHD/ADD, and even at times setting standards that were a little too high for me. Like many, I just wanted to be like everyone else. I think this is something that many of us feel at one point or another. And yes, I also compared myself to others. However, recently, I’ve come to realize something. Okay, maybe a few things. Everyone struggles with something, even those who may seem “normal” to me. We don’t always see the struggles that others experience and go through. Struggles are a part of life. Something that everyone goes through. Struggles…
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It’s different for everyone
I’ve learned a lot since I started this blog and reading/researching ADHD/ADD. There was a lot I didn’t realize about ADHD/ADD. One thing that I’ve learned is that, despite having standard symptoms, ADHD/ADD affects everyone differently. How my ADHD/ADD affects me is different from how it affects someone else with ADHD/ADD. Yes, we both ADHD/ADD, but our experiences with it and how it affects will differ. There are so many people in the world that have ADHD/ADD. We are aware how ADHD/ADD affects people, know the symptoms, and such. However, it’s not a one size fits all kinds of deal. Just because many suffer from ADHD/ADD, it doesn’t mean that…
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ADHD, shame, and strategies to overcome it
In my last post, I discussed how ADHDers’ experience with shame, and I felt shame recently, even though there wasn’t any real reason for me to feel this way. This lead me to wanting to know more about ADHD-related shame and find ways to overcome it, when I do experience, which leads me to this post. First of all, what is shame? It’s when you feel like you’re flawed or inadequate. You have feelings of embarrassment and humiliation. You don’t feel like you belong or aren’t good enough, because of things you’ve done or not done, past experiences, and such. People with ADHD struggle on a daily basis with getting…
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A moment of shame
Shame is something that many of us have felt at one point or another. It’s an emotion, and as humans, we’re pretty much all programmed to have emotions and feel them. It all starts from the moment we’re born and pretty much goes on until we die. As individuals with ADHD/ADD, we feel shame too. We know all too well what it is. Since our brain is wired differently, we struggle with so much, such as being late for work or picking up the kids or to an appointment, losing/misplacing keys/phones/wallets, handing in assignments late, struggling to complete a task or project, and the list just goes on. None of…
