Self care
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Being Self-Compassionate
ADHDers hear a lot of criticism and nagative comments throughout their life. Usually starting as kids. It can be easy to internalize it and we can become our own worse critic and judge. We become very self-critical. It also becomes easy to feel less deserving or worthy than our neurotypical peers, who don’t seem to be struggling nearly as much, in our view. ADHD can also amplify our emotions and our self-doubt, and when it happens, it can be challenging to see the big picture. None of this is good for our mental health. Whether it comes from others or ourselves, there is no benefit to this negativity, criticism, or…
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Let go of self-doubt
Growing up with ADHD does have quite a few challenges to say the least. Having ADHD can lead to some negative experiences in life. We struggles in so many areas of our lives. At school, at work, at home, in social situations. All this does affect our self esteem and we do doubt ourselves and our abilities to achieve things. And not necessarily in a good way. However, as challenging as life can be with ADHD, we are capable of so much. Yes, having ADHD means that things are going to be a little harder, but we can still achieve things in life. We are worth it. We are valuable.…
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Letting go of ‘should’
For a long time, I had a voice telling me that I should be doing this or that. Telling me that I should be cleaning. Or spend less time on my phone. Or spend more time with my kids. I’m sure I’m not the only person who experiences this. The endless cycle of ‘shoulding’. When we start shoulding ourselves, it has more to do with what we think is expected of us rather than we really want. Or even how we truly feel. We feel like we should be better. It’s all about something we learn and have internalized. These thoughts make us feel worse. It really sucks. I never…
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Doing some meditation
Meditation has been around for quite some time. I’m sure we’ve all heard of it, to say the least. Some of you reading this may even practice meditation. There are definitely quite a few benefits to meditation. I’m sure you can think of a few ways it can be beneficial. For those of us with ADHD, the thought of sitting still, turning off our thoughts, and meditating might be scary and feel impossible. Trust me, I used to think this. I honestly didn’t think that I could meditate. I knew the benefits, but didn’t think that I’d be good at it, like many others with ADHD. However, whatever we may…
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Time for Myself
As I mentioned in my post last week, I took some time away from certain things, such as this blog, for a few days. Life got busy, it took a lot out of me, and I need to take some time for myself. Realizing that I needed to rest, slow down a little for both myself and my family. However, there was a time when I couldn’t admit that I needed to rest, or take time for myself, or do anything for myself. Whether to myself or others, it wasn’t something that I could do. I felt that I would be a bit selfish, if I did. I couldn’t bring…
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Time Away
It’s been a little while since I’ve had a post published. It’s been since the beginning of March. It’s been a good two weeks since my last post. I had some posts that I wanted to write, schedule and such. I wanted to spend time working on this blog. There were things that I wanted to do. Spending time away wasn’t something that I intended to do. It wasn’t in my plans. However, life got busy. My three kids had the first week of March off. That week was crazy busy. My girls were able to see some friends. Two of them also had a dentist appointment. Then there were…
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Being Kinder on Myself
Over the last few months, I’ve really come to realize how important it is for me to take care of myself and make time for myself. While I’m taking time for myself, I’ve become more aware of my thoughts, what I’m telling myself, and such. Not all of which is positive. I was realizing that I could be hard on myself. I still held high standards for myself. The self talk going through my mind wasn’t always positive, and it was at least partially due to what I thought I should be doing, the amount of things I should be doing, and such. Needless to say, I wasn’t like it…
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Don’t compare
Here’s something that I’m sure many people do, or have done, whether you have ADHD, or not. Maybe not everyone does this, but I’m sure that many have done this at one point or another. At times, it can be quite easy to do. Comparing ourselves to others. You might compare yourself to a coworker, to another parent, to a friend, to someone successful, and the list goes on. As someone with ADHD, we do struggle with so many things that it can be so easy to compare ourselves to others. Or even ask ourselves why we can’t complete a task that is just so simple most can accomplish within…
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Not letting shame get the better of me
I’m sure that we’ve all experienced shame at one point or another. It is one of those emotions that may come up every once in a while. However, it seems that, if you have ADHD, shame seems to have a way of creeping up a bit more often. It seems that a lot of people with ADHD do face shame more often than individuals with neurotypical brains. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve forgot something or failed or whatever and felt so ashamed. Why couldn’t I be like other moms? Why can’t I have a neurotypical brain? Why do I struggle so much at simple tasks? I must…
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Self Love is Important
So, this week, I want to talk a little bit of self love. So many people struggle with their image of themselves and celebrating who they are. If you read my last post, you’ll know that it’s taking me a long time to accept myself, my ADHD, and who I am. I do realize that there are others out there, who are in a similar situation. Now, take a minute and think about how you see yourself and how you view yourself. Are you confident? Do you have low self-esteem? Do you have positive views of yourself, or negative? For a long time, I wasn’t confident. I didn’t have positive…
