• Self care

    Let go of self-doubt

    Growing up with ADHD does have quite a few challenges to say the least. Having ADHD can lead to some negative experiences in life. We struggles in so many areas of our lives. At school, at work, at home, in social situations. All this does affect our self esteem and we do doubt ourselves and our abilities to achieve things. And not necessarily in a good way. However, as challenging as life can be with ADHD, we are capable of so much. Yes, having ADHD means that things are going to be a little harder, but we can still achieve things in life. We are worth it. We are valuable.…

  • Self care

    Letting go of ‘should’

    For a long time, I had a voice telling me that I should be doing this or that. Telling me that I should be cleaning. Or spend less time on my phone. Or spend more time with my kids. I’m sure I’m not the only person who experiences this. The endless cycle of ‘shoulding’. When we start shoulding ourselves, it has more to do with what we think is expected of us rather than we really want. Or even how we truly feel. We feel like we should be better. It’s all about something we learn and have internalized. These thoughts make us feel worse. It really sucks. I never…

  • meditating with candles and incense
    Self care

    Doing some meditation

    Meditation has been around for quite some time. I’m sure we’ve all heard of it, to say the least. Some of you reading this may even practice meditation. There are definitely quite a few benefits to meditation. I’m sure you can think of a few ways it can be beneficial. For those of us with ADHD, the thought of sitting still, turning off our thoughts, and meditating might be scary and feel impossible. Trust me, I used to think this. I honestly didn’t think that I could meditate. I knew the benefits, but didn’t think that I’d be good at it, like many others with ADHD. However, whatever we may…

  • food and drinks on blanket prepared for picnic in countryside
    Self care

    Time for Myself

    As I mentioned in my post last week, I took some time away from certain things, such as this blog, for a few days. Life got busy, it took a lot out of me, and I need to take some time for myself. Realizing that I needed to rest, slow down a little for both myself and my family. However, there was a time when I couldn’t admit that I needed to rest, or take time for myself, or do anything for myself. Whether to myself or others, it wasn’t something that I could do. I felt that I would be a bit selfish, if I did. I couldn’t bring…

  • Blog-related,  Self care

    Time Away

    It’s been a little while since I’ve had a post published. It’s been since the beginning of March. It’s been a good two weeks since my last post. I had some posts that I wanted to write, schedule and such. I wanted to spend time working on this blog. There were things that I wanted to do. Spending time away wasn’t something that I intended to do. It wasn’t in my plans. However, life got busy. My three kids had the first week of March off. That week was crazy busy. My girls were able to see some friends. Two of them also had a dentist appointment. Then there were…

  • Growth/Personal Development,  Self care

    Being Kinder on Myself

    Over the last few months, I’ve really come to realize how important it is for me to take care of myself and make time for myself. While I’m taking time for myself, I’ve become more aware of my thoughts, what I’m telling myself, and such. Not all of which is positive. I was realizing that I could be hard on myself. I still held high standards for myself. The self talk going through my mind wasn’t always positive, and it was at least partially due to what I thought I should be doing, the amount of things I should be doing, and such. Needless to say, I wasn’t like it…

  • Mental Health,  Self care

    Don’t compare

    Here’s something that I’m sure many people do, or have done, whether you have ADHD, or not. Maybe not everyone does this, but I’m sure that many have done this at one point or another. At times, it can be quite easy to do. Comparing ourselves to others. You might compare yourself to a coworker, to another parent, to a friend, to someone successful, and the list goes on. As someone with ADHD, we do struggle with so many things that it can be so easy to compare ourselves to others. Or even ask ourselves why we can’t complete a task that is just so simple most can accomplish within…

  • Mental Health,  Self care

    Not letting shame get the better of me

    I’m sure that we’ve all experienced shame at one point or another. It is one of those emotions that may come up every once in a while. However, it seems that, if you have ADHD, shame seems to have a way of creeping up a bit more often. It seems that a lot of people with ADHD do face shame more often than individuals with neurotypical brains. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve forgot something or failed or whatever and felt so ashamed. Why couldn’t I be like other moms? Why can’t I have a neurotypical brain? Why do I struggle so much at simple tasks? I must…

  • Self care

    Self Love is Important

    So, this week, I want to talk a little bit of self love. So many people struggle with their image of themselves and celebrating who they are. If you read my last post, you’ll know that it’s taking me a long time to accept myself, my ADHD, and who I am. I do realize that there are others out there, who are in a similar situation. Now, take a minute and think about how you see yourself and how you view yourself. Are you confident? Do you have low self-esteem? Do you have positive views of yourself, or negative? For a long time, I wasn’t confident. I didn’t have positive…

  • Self care

    Acceptance

    It’s taken me a while to accept who I am. To accept my strengths as well as my flaws. This week, I was thinking of this. I was thinking of myself, of my strengths, my flaws, things that I would like to work on, all of it. And I am finally accepting myself for who I am. I’m not saying that there aren’t things that I don’t need to work on. I know I am not perfect and there are things that I would like to change and improve. After all, I am only human. I’m not perfect and there are things that I do need to change. That being…