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Emotional Withdrawal as a Coping Mechanism
It can be difficult to explain the struggles of being a woman/girl with ADHD. We struggle with organization, forgetfulness, staying on task, picking up on social cues, just to name a few. It’s not always easy for girls to feel as though they fit in with their peers. It can also be a challenge as girls become women with ADHD. So, in order to protect ourselves from rejection, bullying, or any other negative situation, we try to find ways to cope. One way is emotional withdrawal. We do this by bottling up our emotions, or pretending we don’t care, for instance. Girls with ADHD may learn this coping mechanism at…
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Blogs and Websites about ADHD
In my last post, I wrote about some podcasts about ADHD that I enjoy listening to. Now, I want to share some of the blogs and websites that I like. As someone who enjoys reading, I can’t help but want to read blogs and websites. So without further ado, here are some blogs and websites about ADHD that I enjoy and find useful. Additude Magazine Additude Magazine is dedicated to ADHD. There are a variety of articles discussing how ADHD can affect our day to day lives. There are articles directed towards those who have ADHD and parents who have kids with ADHD. The website also has articles written by…
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Podcasts about ADHD
In the last year or two, I’ve really gotten into listening to podcasts. I listen to podcasts when I go for a walk with my dog, or when I’m doing some cleaning, just to name two. Some of the podcasts I listen to and enjoy are about ADHD. So here are some that I listen to and absolutely love! #1: Motherhood in ADHD. Patricia Sung is a mother of 2 and has ADHD. She shares tips and information for moms with ADHD and struggle with day-to-day tasks. She shares some of her experience as a mom and woman with a neuro-developmental disorder. I really enjoy this podcast. As a mom…
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ADHD and Perfectionism
Many may not think of or associate perfectionism with ADHD. However, many people with ADHD are perfectionists. With all the things that we’ve been told we do wrong or missed or didn’t do well enough, it can be easy for those with ADHD to want to do things perfectly. However, perfectionism can backfire, especially when trying to achieve perfectionism with things that don’t require it. We may miss a deadline, or not do something we would do. Other things in our lives may be neglected. It can be difficult to not strive for perfection, especially since individuals with ADHD don’t want to disappoint others, want to avoid criticism as much…
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Women with ADHD and Friendships
As women, we do enjoy being accepted by others. It is a good feeling to being able to make connections and create friendships. For many making and keeping those friendships may come somewhat naturally. However, social interactions are a struggle for women with ADHD. It’s not as easy as it may seem. Studies show that social behaviours for women with ADHD are more impaired than for women who don’t have ADHD. Social connections and behaviours require a lot of executive function, which is something that those with ADHD struggle with. Women with ADHD struggle with social cues, checking in with others, being able to follow conversations with others, good listening,…
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Myth: Only boys have ADHD
There are quite a few myths and misconceptions about ADHD. I have discussed some before. Another one is that only boys have ADHD. As you can guess, this totally not the case. Many girls and women, like myself, are living proof out there that they can have ADHD, just like boys and men can have this disorder. Yes, boys and men are more likely to get diagnosed with ADHD than girls and women. Boys and men are also more likely to get diagnosed earlier in life. However, girls and women do have as well. ADHD certainly does not discriminate when it comes to who has ADHD. Although boys and men…
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Let go of self-doubt
Growing up with ADHD does have quite a few challenges to say the least. Having ADHD can lead to some negative experiences in life. We struggles in so many areas of our lives. At school, at work, at home, in social situations. All this does affect our self esteem and we do doubt ourselves and our abilities to achieve things. And not necessarily in a good way. However, as challenging as life can be with ADHD, we are capable of so much. Yes, having ADHD means that things are going to be a little harder, but we can still achieve things in life. We are worth it. We are valuable.…
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Mom Guilt
At one point or another, many moms out there will feel some degree of mom guilt. I’m sure it happens to a lot of us, if not all of us moms. Here’s the thing. When you have ADHD, mom guilt takes on a whole new level. And I’ll explain why I think this is. As a mom, we have to schedule all the different activities, make sure that the family gets to where they’re supposed to be on time, being able to manage our emotions during difficult/stressful/challenging times and situations, being able to clean and organize, just to name a few things. And these are all things that individuals with…
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Recent Move
About two weeks ago, we moved from the place we lived in for 8 years into a new place. As much as we loved the neighbours and all, we needed more space and needed a changed. We outgrew that place. It isn’t something I’ve mentioned on this blog before now, so don’t worry if you’re surprised by this news. We started packing in April, so that we wouldn’t have to do as much at the last minute. This definitely did help, as it made things easier. We could do a little bit over a long period of time. As someone with ADHD, this definitely made things a little easier. Things…
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Letting go of ‘should’
For a long time, I had a voice telling me that I should be doing this or that. Telling me that I should be cleaning. Or spend less time on my phone. Or spend more time with my kids. I’m sure I’m not the only person who experiences this. The endless cycle of ‘shoulding’. When we start shoulding ourselves, it has more to do with what we think is expected of us rather than we really want. Or even how we truly feel. We feel like we should be better. It’s all about something we learn and have internalized. These thoughts make us feel worse. It really sucks. I never…
