What We Wish You Knew about ADHD part 2

In my last post, I discussed some of the things that ADHDers wish others knew about it. As there are quite a few, it seemed like a good idea to write another post on this subject. 

As someone with ADHD, there are a lot things that I want people to understand about ADHD.

So, here some other things we wish others knew about ADHD.

Shame, Guilt, Low Self Esteem, Self Doubt

Shame, guild, low self-esteem and self-doubt are four emotions that many of us have felt at one point or another. 

There are so many reasons why we end up feeling this way. Some are shamed and blamed for one thing or another. We feel like we fall short of neurotypical standards and expectations. We feel as though we’re not good enough and are broken and defective. 

We’re all to aware of our struggles and what we do wrong. We are aware of it and, a lot of times, it’s pointed out to us.

In the end, it all leads to guilt, shame, low self esteem and self doubt.

It’s Not Just Boys with ADHD

When talking about ADHD, many just associate it with boys who are hyperactive.

However, it’s not just school aged boys who have ADHD. These boys tend to become men with ADHD. And girls and women are just as likely to be diagnosed and have ADHD as boys and men are.

It’s also important to remember that there is more to ADHD than just hyperactivity. There are different types of ADHD.

Here’s the Thing about Focus

Many are aware that focus doesn’t come easily to us. This is true. It can be a challenge for those with ADHD.

However, there’s more to it than just being unable to focus. 

We are able to focus on activities, tasks and such that interest us. However, if the task or activity is something we find dull or boring, that’s when it becomes absolutely impossible for us to focus on it.

Having ADHD doesn’t mean we can’t focus or concentrate. Having ADHD means we have a difficult time controlling what we focus on.

Our ADHD Can Affect Others

It can be easy to focus on how ADHD impacts those with the condition. 

However the people close to us and interact with on a regular basis are also affected by it. We ADHDers do realize at one point or another how it affects others too.

Personally, over the years, I’ve come to realize how my ADHD affects others. Mostly my husband and our kids. I know it’s frustrating for them and can’t be easy. They have every to be. 

It can be difficult enough for us to deal with the struggles with ADHD. When our loved ones are also affected and frustrated with it, it’s not any easier. We don’t like how it affects the ones we love.

We Were Born This Way

We were born with ADHD. We didn’t choose to be this way. It’s just how we are. Our brains are wired differently. We don’t have a choice how our brain works.

Whether we like it or not, it’s just the way we are. We are who we are.

Final Thoughts

There are a lot things that many want to share. Over the last two posts, I have shared some. I may share more at a later time, but for now, I leave you with these ones.