There are quite a few things that are misunderstood when it comes to ADHD. There are things that neurotypicals may not be aware, when it comes what’s going within us ADHDers or what we’re going through. I can understand that neurotypicals may not know everything about this topic.
There are quite a few things that we ADHDers would like others to know about this topic.
So, this week’s will focus on that. Things that ADHDers wish others knew about. I will share some of my own, as well as what others have brought up in some articles I have read.
It Is a Real Thing
Some people believe that ADHD doesn’t exist and isn’t real. I spoke to someone mentioned this belief of us. She didn’t say exactly those words, but that’s what I figured she meant and thought. I know I’m not the only one with ADHD who have found themselves in this type of situation.
The fact is: ADHD is real. It is something that all of us with ADHD know. We struggle with it pretty much everyday.
Just because you can’t see it, it doesn’t mean it’s not real or we don’t struggle with it.
No, Not Everyone Has ADHD
Yes, I heard at least one or two people say: “Isn’t everyone a little ADHD?” Or something very similar to that.
Fact is: not everyone has ADHD.
Sure, everyone can be forgetful, or distracted, some of the times. However, those with ADHD struggle with these things so much more than that.
Although the comment may not be meant as mean and such, it can ultimately be hurtful and dismissive of all the struggles that ADHDers deal with every single day.
ADHD Affects All Aspect of our Lives
Some might think that ADHD only affects us when at school. And yes, it does affect our school life.
However, it also affects every other aspects of our lives as well. Whether we’re at home, school, work, at the store, ADHD is always there. It’s not something that we can switch on and off. As much as we may life too, it’s not something we can do.
ADHD Has Nothing to Do with Intelligence
Just because we have ADHD and our brain is wired differently, it doesn’t mean that ADHDers aren’t smart. It has nothing to do with someone’s intelligence.
When someone has ADHD, it simply mean that their brain is wired differently, process information differently, and do things differently. There are a lot of smart people who have ADHD.
What works for neurotypicals don’t work for us ADHDers, as our brains are wired differently. It’s as simple as that.
We Really Are Trying
Once, a few years ago, my husband and I were having a conversation. I forget about what, but I remember him telling me to try harder. He may have said this before, but I remember this time the best. I simply told him that this is like me saying that he should try harder to manage his anxiety. He got the point.
I know many with ADHD have heard this as well.
The fact is that we really trying hard and doing the best we can. It may not always seem like it to others, but the truth still remains that we really are trying our best.
So, telling us to try harder does help us at all.
There are a lot of things that we wish others would know about ADHD. These are just some of them.
Since there are many, I will discuss more on Friday’s posts. Until then!