At some point, we all ask ourselves this question. It’s something a lot of us wonder. It’s something that does cross our minds.
For those of us with ADHD, it happens to cross our minds so much more. We struggle so much that it leads us to being afraid of it.
As ADHDers we tend to feel emotions quite intently. So that shame after we fail can be definitely hard for us.
We understand that it’s not entirely our fault. We have an neuro developmental disorder that makes things easy for us to forget, get distracted and such. However we do still feel ashamed and bad that we do.
We try really hard to be able to function, focus, and remember, just to name a few things. We feel awful for it and we feel like we’ve failed.
It’s definitely not a good feeling.
However, these things are going to happen. We’re not failures. Yes we make mistakes, forget things, and such, but we are the way we are. We can ask for help from others and talk to someone.
At the end of the day, all we can do is do the best we can and accept our differences, accept our neurodiversity.
I know how you feel. I find myself asking this very question all the time.
Keep going. The concept and the thought of failure is far scarier than what actually happens. Failure allows us to grow and try something else, or to try again by approachiong it from a different stance.
I think you’re 100% right! I don’t have ADHD but have had a number of students I used to teach who did and I always tried to encourage them to be a little kinder to themselves when they forgot something or any other issue. Thanks for sharing this — it’s a good reminder.
It can be hard for us. I’m so glad that you supported them and encouraged them to be kinder on themselves. I’m sure it made a difference.