For a long time, I tried to be “normal”, pretending that I don’t have ADHD/ADD, and even at times setting standards that were a little too high for me. Like many, I just wanted to be like everyone else. I think this is something that many of us feel at one point or another. And yes, I also compared myself to others.
However, recently, I’ve come to realize something. Okay, maybe a few things.
Everyone struggles with something, even those who may seem “normal” to me. We don’t always see the struggles that others experience and go through. Struggles are a part of life. Something that everyone goes through. Struggles may be different, but they are still there. My struggles may be different from my next door neighbour, but I’m sure she’s had her share of struggles and challenges. I can’t compare my struggles and challenges to hers, as they’re different. I imagine, anyway.
I’ve also realized that not everyone is going to like me, or agree with me, or whatever. And that’s fine. I won’t like everyone, or agree with everyone either. Things would actually be a bit boring if we did, if you ask me.
And with these things in mind, I ask myself, “Why not just be me? Why not accept how my brain works? And why not find people who accept me for me?”
I shouldn’t be fighting who I am, or how I am. Sure, I can make some changes or adjustments with regards to habits and mindset, for instance, but I can’t change how my brain works, or where I was born, or who my parents are. I was born with an ADHD brain, looking the way I do, thinking the way I do.
I have strengths and weaknesses. I have struggles and challenges. I have good days and bad ones.
At the end of the day, I am who I am. I don’t have to be like everyone else. I just have to try and be the best version of me. And try and spend time with people that accept me for who I am. That’s all any of us can really do.
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