No matter who you are, you probably have heard some negative criticism at some point in your life. If you have ADHD, it seems like those negative comments/criticisms outweigh all the good stuff.
I know that it seems like I’ve heard them so much. I’ve heard so much of it that it seems that I now have a harder time hearing the good things. I often expect the bad, and I have a difficult time seeing the good in me and hearing the good that others have to say. It sure hasn’t helped my self-esteem much.
Recently I began changing things a bit.
A few weeks ago, my husband said something to me. I can’t remember exactly what it was, but he was just frustrating about how I do certain things. It was most likely about my cleaning, which I am horrible at. I think that’s what it was, but not too sure. Either way, it wasn’t good. It didn’t make me feel good.
It got me to think. Instead of letting it get to me, and focus on all the things that I struggle with, I’m going to find things that I am good at. I’m not going to ask other people to tell me. I’m going to do it myself for myself. So, I started to be more aware of what I was doing, and if I noticed something that I did well, I would make a mental note. I would add that to my list of things that I could do well.
I have added a few things to that list, and I try to focus on that. I talk myself through things. I encourage myself when I feel like I’ve done something well, or made some progress in changing a habit, or whatever it may be. I’ve become my own cheerleader.
That being said, I am still trying to work on the things that I struggle with, but I am not beating myself up about it as much. I am trying to focus more on the things that I know I’m good at. And I think we should all try to do this more.
Let’s focus more on the things that we know we’re good at and that comes easily to us.
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