My name is Dominique. I am 29 years old. I will be turning 30 in just a few short months. I got a BA and graduated in 2011. I have been married to a wonderful guy for the last 8 years. We met while we were both studying at the same university. We have three amazing kids together. He has a good paying job. We do have a pretty good life. No, it’s not perfect, and can be pretty chaotic at times, especially with three kids under 6 1/2 in the house, but somehow we make it work. I can’t complain too much about my life. It could certainly be a lot worse than it is.
However, as good as things may be for me, there is one thing that does affect so many aspects of my life, if not every aspect. I have ADHD. That stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. Or most specifically I have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). At age 12, I was diagnosed with ADD, and fell into the inattentive category (ADD). At that time, I finally found out what was going, why I was struggling so much with school, why I couldn’t focus on tasks and homework, just to name a few things. I finally had an explanation, which did bring some relief to my life. I found out what was really wrong with me. What was going on inside my head.
Even now, as an adult, life with ADHD/ADD can still be struggle. ADHD still affects pretty much every aspect of my life, as it does for everyone else, who has this condition. I do still have a difficult time focusing for long periods of time. I don’t have the easiest time planning and organizing for things. Most of the time, I have so many thoughts going on in my head. It’s like having 25 TVs and each is showing something completely different. That’s what it feels like, most of the times. It does get tricky, when my kids are also trying to talk to me. As hard as I try, I have to work extremely hard to get things done and focus on getting the task completed. Yet, it doesn’t always feel like enough. It does feel like I will fall short. My cleaning skills are lacking, although better than they were, when I was a kid, or even when I first met my husband. Both my mom and husband can attest to this. I will admit that I would like my cleaning habits to improve, although I’m not sure how likely that will be. Yes, I do still sometimes daydream. Alright, I will do that quite a bit. I struggle with thinking before I speak or do things. Remembering things isn’t always the easiest thing for me to do, although I do probably have an easier time with it now than I used to. I have found ways to manage that better. I do still forget some things, although I’d like to think not as often. I do lose things occasionally. I will misplace things very often, such as my keys or my wallet. Although I generally only misplace them in my own house, so I don’t have to panic too much. I do find it frustrating, but such is my life. My social skills aren’t always the best. I have a difficult time communicating things, getting my point across and making things clear. This may seem like quite the list, but these are just some of the things of how ADHD affects my life on a daily basis.
It’s hard. I mean, really hard. I don’t always like it. But this is my life. This is who I am. I have ADHD. I can’t always help what I do or say, and I have to work so hard every day, but that’s me. It’s been a part of me for as long as I can remember and isn’t going away any time soon. I just have to work with it. One thing that does help is knowing that I’m not alone with this struggle. I know that there are a lot of people out there, just like me. People who understand what I’m going through. People who know exactly what it’s like to have it.
For those of you, who have ADHD/ADD, I can understand and relate with what you’re going through. I’m going through it too. For those who don’t, please understand that we really are doing our best and really are trying. We just need your patience and understanding. We do need help. Work with us. Hopefully, things will be a little easier for everyone.
I just want to add one last thing to my introduction post. I am not a professional. I’m not a mental health professional, a doctor, nor am I am a nurse. I am not an expert in the field. I am just a mom who happens to have ADHD. I am blogging about the subject, because I want to learn about ADHD. I am just reading other people’s research and articles. So, I can’t diagnose anyone, or anything like that. I hope I can help you learn a little bit about it too. Hopefully, down the line, we can feel like we’ve learned something and feel like others can understand. We can support each other.
So, I hope you can all enjoy this, and feel free to contact me with a question, or suggestion, or correction, or comment, or whatever else that comes to mind. I am opened to reading your comments. And I will try to respond as quickly as I can.
Thanks for reading the first of, what I hope, many posts!