At one point or another, many moms out there will feel some degree of mom guilt. I’m sure it happens to a lot of us, if not all of us moms.
Here’s the thing. When you have ADHD, mom guilt takes on a whole new level. And I’ll explain why I think this is.
As a mom, we have to schedule all the different activities, make sure that the family gets to where they’re supposed to be on time, being able to manage our emotions during difficult/stressful/challenging times and situations, being able to clean and organize, just to name a few things.
And these are all things that individuals with ADHD constantly struggle with, everyday, whether they have kids or not. ADHDers struggle with these tasks all the time. And because we struggle with day-to-day things, we feel bad and become our own worse enemy. We feel guilty for struggling so much. We feel as though we’re not doing well enough. We feel inadequate for the job.
Here’s one thing we need to keep in mind. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. All we can do is do the best we can. That’s it. Our kids will benefit from us simply doing the best we can and not pushing us to hard.
At the end of the day, here are some things to keep in mind that may help us manage our hectic and busy lives as moms.
- Make time for yourself. I find that if I don’t make time for myself, I am less patient and I get frustrated with my kids more so than when I do make time for myself. I’m sure many will find that they are less patient, when stressed and aren’t able to make time for themselves. So this can make quite the difference.
- Get some rest. Having enough sleep and rest will definitely help us pay more attention to things. Let’s face it, it’s a lot harder to get things done, when we’re exhausted.
- Ask for help. There is nothing wrong with needing help and asking for it.
- Remember that you’re more than just a mom. You are a human with feelings, thoughts and interests. It can be easy to forget this when our kids come along, as we want to be there for them.
Being a mom is not an easy job. It’s hard as hell. And it can be difficult for anyone, especially as a mom with ADHD. But it’s totally possible to manage things, even when you have ADHD. Don’t be too hard on yourself.