As I mentioned in my post last week, I took some time away from certain things, such as this blog, for a few days. Life got busy, it took a lot out of me, and I need to take some time for myself. Realizing that I needed to rest, slow down a little for both myself and my family.
However, there was a time when I couldn’t admit that I needed to rest, or take time for myself, or do anything for myself. Whether to myself or others, it wasn’t something that I could do. I felt that I would be a bit selfish, if I did. I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I just felt like I might be a bad mom/wife.
When my kids were little, for instance, I did enjoy it when I had some quiet me time. I knew that it was something that I needed. However, I had a difficult time admitting, asking for it, and I really had a hard time justifying it. After all, I am not only a mom, but a stay at mom. I’m supposed to be spending all my waking time being there for my kids. They’re my priority.
At least that’s what I thought.
Looking back now, it’s easy to see that this way of thinking really hurt not only me, but those closest to me. Mainly my husband and kids. I was neglecting myself, feeling drained, frustrated, and it affected them.
I’m also realizing that needing and making time for yourself and doing something you enjoy isn’t selfish. It shouldn’t be put at the bottom of our priority list. We aren’t failing or neglecting our family if we go take a quick shower, or go into our room for a few minutes while our kids watch TV.
Quite the opposite.
We all need a break. We all need to take care of ourselves. We need to make time for ourselves. We are just as important (if not more so) as our families, friends, jobs, or whatever else that is going on in our lives that is important to us.
Part of me does wish I had realized this sooner. It’s something I do feel bad about. However, at the end of the day, I have come to realize this while I still can, while I am still young, while my kids are still young. Better to realize it now while I still have years ahead of me to live and make time for myself and enjoy all the things/people I love.
By making time for myself, making myself a priority, I am able to recharge my battery, and be in a better position to take care of my family and get things done. No one can do things, when they’re feeling drained, tired, or frustrated.
So, make sure you make time for yourself. It’s not selfish to realize that you have needs and want to take of yourself.